Live Like You Matter
Recover the person you know you are and create the life you want after betrayal and trauma.
Oneita Offield, Certified Betrayal Trauma Coach and Energy Leadership Index™ Master Practitioner, specializing in women’s empowerment and betrayal trauma coaching.
Betrayal and infidelity cause trauma, and as you well know anything can trigger it:
- The coffee mug in your cabinet
- Billboards on the road
- That song that comes on the radio
When your trauma gets triggered, you feel stuck, unable to move beyond the pain caused by someone else’s decisions. It’s easy to focus on the other person and the pain they’ve brought into your life, or all the ways you could have been better or done things differently.
Betrayal and Trauma Sucks. But You Don't.
You Can Hope Again
The HopeWork Program:
We work together through three phases to restore hope and confidence in your life and relationships.
- KNOW YOURSELF: Learn to understand your unique trauma experience. Gain tools to help regulate and heal your nervous system. Identify old patterns, beliefs, and narratives.
- REWRITE YOUR STORY: Update your narratives. Leave self-abandonment behind by examining and developing routines in the six areas of self-care. Remove barriers by understanding addiction and trauma.
- EMBRACE YOUR POWER: Recognize healthy/unhealthy dynamics and learn to communicate your needs. Establish and maintain boundaries. Rebuild trust and forgiveness (with or without the relationship).
I’ve taken all of my experience, training, therapy, and case studies over the last decade and developed this curriculum that literally guides you to reclaiming your life! Those who have gone through my program feel more joy, freedom, confidence, and self worth than they have in years, and in some cases, EVER!
If you make this investment in yourself, your future, your LIFE, you will begin to feel more hope, more healing, and more progress than you have previously experienced. But don’t just take my word for it. Here’s some previous clients that can share their experience in working with me.
What Clients Are Saying
“The tools that she uses and teaches, I use on a daily basis. I enjoy my time working with her. I look forward to my sessions. I appreciate what she does because most importantly she has show me who I am.”
– Jill, Individual Coaching Client
“I left her group feeling more equipped and empowered by the skills that she provided. To be more focused on my kids, and focused on my own self-care and healing. It’s given me a lot of hope as a single Mom.”
– Julie, Group Coaching Client
“There was a lot of healing, growth and even transformation, and I attribute that a lot to how Oneita worked with us.”
– Mary, Group Coaching Client
“Oneita has a wonderful curriculum. It really can be life changing and give you an entirely new outlook.”
– Ali, Group Coaching Client
You too, can experience this same journey of hope and healing.
When you work with me you will get:
- One-hour sessions
- Flexibility of zoom (face to face) or voice call only
- Optional structured calls with power point slides to take any pressure off of you, or you can bring anything you need to the session
- Access to my HopeWork curriculum that gives daily guardrails as we walk this path of healing together
- Option of group coaching or one on one
- Optional Marco Polo for daily check-ins with the group coaching for support in between calls
- Access to me via email throughout the week when needed
Finding the right kind of help is not easy. You may have had the same experience I did with therapist after therapist not being the right fit, or giving us even more damaging and hurtful “advice” leaving us feeling worse than we started. What you need is someone who gets it. Who knows betrayal trauma, addiction, and a tried and true path to recovery.
Client after client asks for “the fast forward button” to just end all the pain and get to the healing. While there may not be a magic button, you can certainly take years off of your healing and recovery simply by finding the right help.
I can’t count the endless amounts of hours I’ve spent consuming all the articles, books, and videos searching for answers! We’ve spent THOUSANDS of dollars trying to find a therapist that could help us.
YEARS of my life was spent in this cycle of fear, research, false hope, crushing reality and despair. Don’t continue to allow this to be you and your life!! You deserve so much more! You deserve the peace and freedom that comes from healing.
You get to choose.
I know the top three reasons that keep betrayed partners from getting the help they deserve:
Time, Money and Energy, but the truth here my dear sister is YOU ARE WORTH ANY NUMBER OF RESOURCES IT TAKES, TO TAKE YOUR LIFE BACK!!
The reality is: You’re not the mother to your children you know you need and want to be. They are suffering as you are suffering and you don’t know how to help them. Your employer, your friends, your family are not getting the person they deserve and need. You are needed, you are wanted, you are loved.
Staying stuck in this hell you find yourself in isn’t allowing you to feel the truth about who you are, your divine nature, and true potential in this life. You didn’t ask for this, but only YOU can decide to reach out and begin the process of true recovery.
You matter.
Still Doubting Yourself?
I can help. Ask Yourself this Question. “What if 5 years down the road nothing changes and I am in this same position I find myself in today?” and now imagine what it would be like to look back on this day, this moment, just 1 year from now and think “THAT’S the day my life changed.”
If you take this journey with me, I know with sure confidence that you will be able to have that be apart of your story, too. That’s my prayer for you. That’s why I do what I do and why I created this program for women like you and me. We need to feel heard, validated, and understood.
I didn’t have this kind of help when I first discovered my husband’s pornography addiction. I was labelled as co-dependent by therapists, and told by ecclesiastical leaders, family and my husband that I just needed to forgive more, be more understanding, and more patient.
Had I known what betrayal trauma was and how to manage the triggers, set boundaries, and find my own peace amongst the chaos I wouldn’t have felt so much shame, isolation, embarrassment, and fear. THAT’S what motivates me to do what I do. To bring you the resources, guidance, tools, and support it takes to navigate this journey and rebuild your life!